Build your future together. Arkhangelsk region: residents of Kargopol are shocked by the placement of Igor Orlov’s billboard on the building of a long-term construction school Dates always end in sex
Throughout the election campaign, Igor Anatolyevich constantly expressed the thesis that he was confident of his victory, and that he perceived the elections themselves more as a report on the work done. At the same time, the election campaign itself did not radiate this confidence at all. A complete cleansing of the electoral background from any political heavyweights. Instead, as already reported by the Belomorkanal news agency, disposable political characters were appointed to the election race in the race with Orlov, and it all looked like a beating of babies.
Throughout the election months there was a massive PR campaign for the governor, who regularly appeared from any location in the region. All this was completed with a rally-concert in support of Igor Orlov, which took place last Friday with the participation of Alexander Rosenbaum. This action itself was very reminiscent of the memorable campaigns of the incompetent Boris Yeltsin, which he danced on stage during the “Vote or Lose” campaign...
Why was such a large-scale and costly PR bacchanalia necessary, despite the fact that the governor was verbally completely confident in his victory? big question. It is clear that this is not his fault: everything was run by a gang of PR people, for whom all two convolutions lead to the only secret thing - to the dough. And they know how to show off and fool their brains.
All other candidates, with the exception of Orlov, conducted completely sleepy campaigning, as if under duress. Madame Ositsyna stood out from the general background, and she received almost 20%. But this, again, is not her merit, it’s just that the LDPR in this election campaign concentrated on three regions: Arkhangelsk, Amur and Smolensk regions. So we invested. But what if we imagine for a second that the party would nominate a disposable character and instead of a dummy, a highly promoted figure would appear in the race, like State Duma deputy Yaroslav Nilov? One hundred percent there would be a second round and there are good reasons to assume that after it the power in the region would change.
What is the result: the Arkhangelsk region has the lowest turnout in the country, but even with this minimal turnout, Igor Orlov did not achieve a crushing victory. Stupid people will now talk about the inertia of voters in the region, refer to the sunny Indian summer, to the massive digging of potatoes. That's all true, but this is the tenth thing. You just don’t need to keep people as herds and fools. They react sharply to injustice and deception. And here the voter clearly understood that the past elections were not intended for him. All these are the affairs of the authorities and the forces around the authorities.
The elections of the supreme power in the region on September 13 were arranged exclusively for the authorities themselves. On the one hand, to show off the theater and demonstrate the success of the center. And on the other hand, to carry out the balance of power in the local power elites, in which last years Igor Anatolyevich never quite fit in.
Already now we can say with complete confidence that the reconciliation with the mayor of Arkhangelsk Pavlenko and the further promotion of the mayor of Severodvinsk Gmyrin were a complete failure. One was spared from criminal charges, the other, in fairness, should have been brought to it - he was a well-deserved man...
But Igor Orlov was repeatedly warned about this: the persistent hostility towards Pavlenko in Arkhangelsk brought a lot to naught. The districts of the regional center have not even reached the required 50 percent! Severodvinsk has the lowest turnout in the region. Despite the fact that the city has always been considered advanced in political affairs and interested in them. Despite the fact that Igor Orlova himself constantly positions his special connection with the city of shipbuilders. But here again, with a ridiculous turnout, fewer people voted for Orlov than in the region. In the summer, Mayor Gmyrin, who was then running from a criminal case, was appointed head of Igor Anatolyevich’s election headquarters; it was he who was supposed to make the election weather for the governor almost 70%. I did... But will conclusions be drawn from all this?..
So it turns out that the authorities played the elections for themselves. In this context, the governor’s slogan calling to build the future together looks ambiguous. Build with whom? As a result, it seems that this call was not directed to society, so it did not respond to the imitation and deception. Although the slogan itself is wonderful: for the first time we were told that the region could have a future. But we have long forgotten about this, watching the string of exoduses of the most active and promising forces, which, as a rule, have nothing to hold them here. The main thing is that the thesis about this future is not empty election rhetoric.
Igor Orlov is still little experienced in all kinds of political intrigue and it is possible that there was a banal sabotage of the power elites in the region with a big stone in their bosom. This whole public has been sitting at the feeder in their occupied places for many years and disrupting the region. For her, Orlov is still a stranger, perhaps for now...
Before the elections, Igor Orlov made a tactical move - he made peace with the elites. His elective alliance with Pavlenko can also be perceived as an act of deliberate humiliation. They call this: showing stable and strong power. But there’s a five-year sentence ahead and you can’t jump out of it that easily. If everything goes in the same spirit, then this period can quite easily turn into a swamp. This swamp has long opened up between us and our unlucky governors. It's time to stop this series of blunders.
Strategically, it will be hoped that Igor Orlov, having secured a five-year mandate and drawn realistic conclusions from September 13, will remove the incapable and self-interested boyars with dust and replace them with people serving the region. Drive away all these suckers with a broom! Oprichnina has been asking for a long time here, otherwise we will all drown and dissolve in this swamp.
And, of course, you should trust people more. 53% with a turnout of 18% - this must be seriously analyzed, otherwise with whom are you going to build the future?
Get rid of this dependence, from the surrounding swamp. Drive them away, drive them away. Work for history, work for the region and remember your inglorious predecessors more often. Do you want the same memory of yourself?..
Andrey RUDALYOV
: if in their minds they are already “playing out” the scene in the hall of the Wedding Palace, then their boyfriend, as they say, is in no mood. Not only does he, in principle, do not plan anything serious in relation to the young lady. But the girl either doesn’t notice this or doesn’t want to notice.
Director of the Vladimir dating agency “Me and You”, family psychologist, interpersonal relationship consultant Elena Kuznetsova listed the six most obvious signs that young man There are no far-reaching plans for the young lady.
1. Dating is usually spontaneous.
Almost always, when saying goodbye after a date, a man says: “We’ll call you” (let’s write, see each other, etc.), without specifying exactly when this will happen. A boyfriend can disappear for several days, and then suddenly show up and invite you to a restaurant. Such spontaneity most often indicates that the girl is clearly not in first place in the young man’s priorities. In other words, . So, what serious intentions can we talk about in this case?
The only exceptions are those who work a lot and do not belong to themselves. They see their chosen one only when a “window” appears in their busy schedule. At this time, a man can call and ask, for example: “What are you doing? Let's meet".
2. Doesn’t introduce you to relatives and friends
Here we should immediately make a reservation. If a guy introduced you to his parents and (or) friends, this does not mean that he has serious intentions towards you. Perhaps it is in the order of things for him to introduce his next passion to mom, dad and his company. So . But if a young man avoids introducing you to his loved ones, then this is...
“If within six months of a close relationship a man does not introduce a woman to either his family or friends, he is unlikely to. There is no point in hoping for a future together with such a gentleman,” Kuznetsova warns.
3. He doesn’t get acquainted with the girl’s close circle.
4. Doesn't talk about the future
According to Elena Kuznetsova, men, in principle, do not like to discuss the future with their chosen one. Something like: “Let’s get married, build a house outside the city and get a dog,” - this is not about talk of the stronger sex. Topics of a shared future are more often raised either by youngsters or by those whose confidence is well supported financially.
Everyone else avoids long-term planning. However, if a man is really seriously interested in a woman, he will still say the “code” phrase: . It should sound within six months of your dates. If, after six months of close communication, the gentleman does not invite you to move in with him, or does not offer to rent an apartment together, etc., then most likely he is not planning a future with you. You already suit him quite well - how. For example, for intimacy.
“If a man is seriously interested in you, he... He wants to smell you constantly, touch you constantly. He likes to take care of you, and he likes that you take care of him. In this case, the partner quickly invites the girl to live together. Provided, of course, that they are both free, and there are no reasons preventing them from living together,” the psychologist concluded.
5. Doesn't call him his girlfriend
It’s quite difficult to imagine a situation in which a man would ceremoniously say: “This is Masha. " If a young man introduces his crush to relatives or close friends, then they, in principle, already know who Masha is.
On the other hand, it has now become quite fashionable to call the young lady with whom a man mainly dates simply “a friend.” The word "girl" has a deeper meaning. This is a certain status that implies not just intimacy, but also a more serious relationship. It happens that a man makes a “Freudian slip” when he is suddenly asked: “Is this your girlfriend?” And a guy who treats a young lady “without fanaticism” can automatically answer: “No.”
Kuznetsova emphasizes that this point is ambiguous, and advises young ladies to focus on men’s actions, because “a man should do, not say.”
6. Dates always end in sex.
This indicator is also not obvious, but nevertheless. If the couple’s relationship was initially based solely on sex, then the man will perceive your meetings exclusively in an intimate context.
If the “mixture” was initially not only about, but also about mutual sympathy, as well as interests other than sex, then the guy can meet the girl without “bed continuation”, but this will not mean at all that he has serious plans for your future together .
“Sex plays a huge role in a couple’s life, but not that much. Maybe the girl is a pleasant conversationalist, and the couple can watch a movie together or discuss something. There is nothing special about this, and it does not mean that the man has serious intentions towards the woman,” states Kuznetsova.
If you have questions for psychologist Elena Kuznetsova, you can ask them by writing a letter to email address editorial staff of AiF-Vladimir: [email protected] .
Sometimes it happens like this: you wake up, have breakfast, go through a weekday, do everything out of habit. Staying next to your spouse no longer brings the former joy; rather, on the contrary, it is a burden. This state can last for years, and it seems that something needs to be changed, but there is no desire.
Codependency is the second most popular problem for which spouses turn to a psychologist. And now we are not talking about people living with alcoholics or drug addicts. We are talking about psychological dependence on the person who is nearby.
Are all good things in the past? Symptoms of codependency
On the one hand, any addiction is bad, on the other hand, several years ago they decided to classify love as an addiction and even a disease. My answer is this: dependence is rather incomplete, so the prospects for such relationships are usually vague. But everyone can fix something!
First, let's name the symptoms of dependent relationships.
- People live in the past, memories occupy most of the time spent together. It seems that all the best things have already happened in your life. You often remember the first years of communication, romance, jokes, and even the relationship you had then. At this stage, people tend to idealize the past, that is, to fill events that happened previously with their emotions.
- Claims arise related to the desire to change something in your spouse. It's about about what was characteristic of him before, but you liked it and did not cause irritation.
- You don’t have a holiday together, although you used to have one. A couple of years ago you liked to walk in the park or go to exhibitions together, but now you only feel good alone.
- There are no joint plans for the future and no desire to build them. You stopped fantasizing and thinking about what will happen in 10 years.
- The thought that you will break up does not make you feel sad, but at the same time you do not want to take steps towards separation.
- Your life is described as a “swamp”, but you don’t want to change anything.
- You (or your partner) abdicate all responsibility for what will happen, hoping that everything will remain “as before.”
- A codependent person worries a lot about others, but, as a rule, is absolutely indifferent to himself and his fate.
Family relationships: causes of the crisis
Many will call it a crisis or a habit. In psychology, they talk specifically about codependency in a relationship if this condition lasts more than a year. Naturally, the question arises about the reasons, because this does not happen in all families; on the contrary, this is rather an exception to the rule.
There are different reasons:
- The “parental model” is to blame: similar relationships existed in the family - the father and mother went with the flow, lived for the sake of the children and did not change anything for years.
- In childhood, the child’s personality was suppressed by overprotection.
- Personality is suppressed already in adulthood. For example, a woman lives for many years under the influence of her husband, without work or self-realization, without the opportunity to be financially independent or free in her desires.
- A person is in a state of post-traumatic stress, for example, after experiencing the loss of a loved one.
- Low self-esteem of the person who is codependent also has an impact.
Three types of codependent relationships
Codependency is a multifaceted phenomenon, and dependent relationships in a single family can be radically different from the situation in another couple. Psychologists distinguish several types of codependency.
First type of dependent relationship- one partner acts as a “guiding star”, and the other follows him. Typical phrases uttered in the case of this type of dependent relationship sound like this: “I made you a man,” “where would you be if it weren’t for me,” etc. It was this type of relationship that was common after the war until the 70s of the last century. The man was the prize, and the woman was very attached to him.
Problems such relationships may be as follows.
It may happen to the “luminary” star fever. He becomes an authoritarian dictator in his manifestations and behavioral reactions. Shows disrespect for his partner. “If I’m a star here, then I’m a star everywhere.” Because of this attitude, disappointments often occur in other fields where he is not so appreciated.
Following the "star" loses himself. The rays of the “star” are too bright, and behind them the follower does not see problems, difficulties, and forgives all insults. There is a feeling that without the “star” he will not be able to exist, and his life will fade away.
In such parental relationships, children especially suffer: one partner constantly watches the “star,” while the other only cares about the strength of his “glow.” In addition, children are required to be like the ideal in everything.
What to do? The follower needs his own life: meetings with friends, hobbies or work. “Star” would do well to remember that “falling can hurt,” and there is nothing better than partnerships. From being looked at in the mouth and being indulged in everything, fatigue will soon come.
Goal setting can come to the aid of the follower. When you set goals, even on a microscopic scale, and achieve them, the degree of self-satisfaction increases and the need for the light of the “star” decreases.
Tactile contact and trust in a relationship will give you everything you need, and there will be no need to “bask in the rays” of your partner.
The second option is “dissolution in a partner”. Typical phrases: “I live for you”, “you are all I have”, “I love you more than life itself”, “I dissolve in my beloved”, “he is the meaning of my life”, “without him I am nothing”, etc. d.
Problems. Such dissolution in another person leads to the loss of oneself. This is similar to the first type of addiction.
There is a danger that the partner will blackmail with his life. The partner is constantly being reproached for the life laid on his altar. The object of love is suffering and is looking for a breath of fresh air on the side.
What to do? When healing, a lot depends on the spouse in whom one invests. It is he who can turn the situation around by pointing out that he does not like this unhealthy cult.
Get interested in something else: the same hobbies will help.
You can change the hero: for example, switch attention to the child (by the way, this type of relationship often comes to naught with the birth of children).
Short separations are very useful; they give you the opportunity to concentrate on other things.
To occupy your head with something or someone else, you literally need to find a problem for yourself! Even if it’s small. For example, get a puppy.
The third type of codependent relationship is power over another. This relationship is perhaps the most unhealthy. Here one is the victim, the other is the aggressor. In these relationships, one partner constantly talks about how he does everything for the sake of the other. And the other suffers from this, realizing that he is being used.
Problems. There is a serious decrease in self-esteem and an increase in self-criticism of the victim partner. The second partner develops the habits of a tyrant. Power over one person is not enough for him, children begin to suffer.
What to do? If a partner occupying the position of a tyrant does not hear anything and does not want to change, you need to run away from him.
But first, it’s worth assessing all the pros and cons of being in such a relationship. Do it in writing. Often in such an alliance the choice is “either you, or you.”
Such a marriage can begin to develop according to a normal scenario if the victim throws off the burden in time and realizes herself as an active person and a self-sufficient person.
16.04.2008
Kristi0716
Me and my family - together into the future
Family... What a soft, warm word...
Why can't we feel happy without a family? Maybe a person was born precisely in order to create a family and find happiness in this? Why can't we imagine a future without a complete family? Because grandfather, grandmother, father, mother and children are our past, present and future!
Each person has his own family, his own home. And wherever we are, we always remember him, he attracts us with his warmth. Home is not only a roof over your head, it is your family and the people closest to you.
In the old days, home and family were spoken of with great respect. This is probably why families in Rus' were very large and friendly. What a pity that in modern world all this was lost and began to be forgotten. After all, how good it is for everyone to gather together at a large round table, share thoughts and ideas, worry, share joy and sorrow. It's easier that way! It's easier! You feel needed by someone! You feel supported.
A large family helps to better understand the world and understand any situation. She teaches good things: kindness, wisdom; respect for older people (not only their own family, but also strangers), helps their children - the younger generation - smoothly transition to independent life.
Close people mean a lot to me: joy, love, understanding, peace of mind, security.
Although my grandmother is a pensioner, she is my friend, just like my mother. She tries to share my failures and joys; acts as my adviser, warns against bad deeds. Grandmother plays a big role in the chain of generations of my family.
We could avoid many mistakes and would live much better if we never forgot that each of us is a link in the chain of generations. The best deeds of parents inspire children and grandchildren, and miscalculations fall on us as a heavy burden. After all, the younger generation inherits not only any external signs, but also their life history.
Everything in our soul is not accidental. If a person does not like to at least occasionally look at old photographs of his parents, does not value the memory of them in the things that belonged to them, then he does not love them. It is because of such people that traditions, values, and memories of the past are lost.
If a person does not value the memory of his ancestors, does not know the history of his family, then creating his own family is unlikely to be the meaning of life for him.
Reluctance to have children, lack of spiritual intimacy, desire only for material well-being - it is because of this that traditions are devalued, values are lost, and the memory of the past is erased. Of course, you can always brush aside the past. It's so simple. But here's the problem: it's always there.
The past is not only a list of events, it is also bright pages of biographies real people, their experiences, feelings.
Remember your roots, both old and young -
This is your family's story...
Family connection of times - secret threads that connect today with yesterday, with the day before yesterday and so on. Here it is - our history, our destiny in photographs, names, and favorite faces.
Every house has old photographs. Family faces look at us from them. We repeat their features. We are their continuation.
Family album...Warm memories...Kind faces of dear people...A very young grandmother, a young grandfather...
Time is a ship that does not anchor anywhere, moving inexorably from the past to the future. The past is the homeland of the soul of any person, and the future for my family is me. I am their hope. And they want to see me happy, hoping that they will always occupy as much space in my soul as they do now.
Photos are like a milestone along the way; it’s easier to navigate through them into the past years. Until now, in some houses there are photographs of all family members - distant and close relatives.
This means that family is not only love and worries, difficulties and joys, misfortunes and sorrows, habits and traditions - it is also understanding.
Lord bless my family - the crown of creation
The earth rests on the heads of the earth
Holy Trinity of Earth
Child. Mother. Father.
And humanity itself
Not just anything – family.
E. Yevtushenko
How important is the happiness and well-being of a family. Finding it and keeping it for a long time is not always possible for everyone. And yet there are families who succeeded! This is my family too.
My parents were able to go through almost two thirds of their lives together. Give birth and raise; raise and give the most necessary things to me and my brother.
Mom and dad are the most dear and dear things I have.
Mom is a person with a very kind soul. She is always sincere, open, and will always support you in difficult times. When she’s around, it’s easy for me, I can talk about anything. Mom always consults with me, and very often I think that she is my friend, but still I never forget her true role. I say the role, because our life is a theater, and we are actors in it.
Dad plays a special character in our family. He is a serious, intelligent man with a very unusual character. This is a person who is constantly on the move, in action. Sometimes I wonder how it is possible to accomplish everything that dad does in such a short time, but then this surprise passes.
A piece of my dad’s character was passed on to my brother and, of course, to me. Everyone says with one voice - I look like my dad. I agree with this partly - I am different: dreamy, principled.
Many thanks to my parents for raising me and continuing to do so, for giving me everything I needed. I don’t stop there and say that, having become a little more mature, I can do more for my mom and dad. I will make their dreams come true and perhaps continue the family business.
We, the Evseevs, are for a bright future! Into the future with one foot and all together!
| Yoga Library | Swami Vishnudevananda Giri | Build your future togetherBuild your future together
It is logical to start taking active, targeted actions to build the future we would like to have. We need to start building our own future. We need to start collectively building our future with purpose and dedication. Years go by. We're getting older. Time is running out. The future lies ahead, what will it be like for us? Where will we be in 20-30 years? In 40? Are you satisfied with the future that could be?
The roots of the future are being laid now. You need to understand this. Now we can influence our future and direct it in the right direction. We can model it however we want.
No one but us will build it for us. We must build it ourselves. A future in which we would be happy, immortal, enlightened, protected, etc.
I appeal to those students who truly have devotion, who value Dharma as the meaning of their lives, who share the sacred connection of samaya.
You, my disciples, if you want to achieve awakening quickly, be prepared to devote yourself entirely to the great ideals of serving the Universal Power of Enlightenment. Personal practice alone is not enough. The world is an illusion not only yours, but also a common, joint, collective one. You will not be liberated, your practice will not give a deep effect precisely because your contemplation, your desire for liberation, your energy is dissipated by the powerful energy of the mandala of samsara, collective maya, illusion as a universal convention, a collective agreement of all conditioned humanity.
You are placed in this against your will, and it has enormous power over you, whether we like it or not. If you are a naked ascetic avadhuta, then collective maya has no power over you. However, in your case this is not the case, not at all. This means that the illusion has enormous power over you, and you are completely dependent on it. However, allowing oneself to be controlled and conditioned by the collective illusion is tantamount to abandoning all hope of liberation.
I don't think you're happy with this. What to do?
We must learn to act together, collectively, as a self-organizing, superintelligent, giant collective mandala that benefits one and all. Working together, we should unfold the gigantic mandala of Divya Loka and build a new civilization based on our spiritual experience and knowledge."
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